{Guest Post} My #1 New Year’s Resolution: Work on Relationships with my Husband and Children

As part of A Grande Life’s New Year Blog Swap, I am joining you today to talk about my New Year’s Resolution while Mary of Cherry Blossom Love is hanging out over at my blog, A Life in Balance. Fun, fun!
First a little about myself before I talk about one of my New Year’s Resolutions. I am a mom of 5 kids, ages 16 to 4. I work from home on my writing and blogs, A Life in Balance and Frugal Local Kitchen, while volunteering at my children’s school, coleading a Daisy/Brownie troop, and setting myself the goal of running 13 races in 2013. Yes, my plate is the proverbial full.

I didn’t use to be this type of person. If you met me a few years ago, you would think of me as a shy, quiet type. Not that I’m swinging on the chandeliers now. I simply have gotten more comfortable with meeting people and creating relationships in my life, plus being myself. I’m incredibly blessed to have lots of wonderful friends in my life now thanks to all the different activities I’m part of.

However, this past fall, I felt like I wasn’t spending as much time focusing on the most important people in my life. My husband and I stopped going out on dates because, well, because I found him a little difficult
to talk to about my life. I stopped going to the library as often as I used to with my teenage son; that was our time to talk without 4 little ones around. We skipped having family birthday parties for our 3 children
with fall and winter birthdays, mostly because of an extended family issue, and also because it meant another project.

Looking in, you’d probably tell me that I spend a lot of time with my kids and my husband. I do. I just don’t make them the priority they were before this fall.

One of my New Year’s resolutions is to put my family back at the top of my priorities. Friends come and go; husbands are supposed to be around for richer, poorer, in sickness, and in health. He’s my life partner. My kids are only this age once, have these birthdays this one time. Now is the time for my husband and my kids.


My Plan

  • Put on the calendar a regular monthly date with my husband. I kicked off January with a surprise date.
  • Text, email, and call my husband several times a day even if it’s simply to let him know that I’m thinking of him.
  • Make a point of hugging and kissing my husband goodbye every morning when he goes off to work.
  • Look at my calendar to make sure I’m spending one on one time with each kid on a regular basis. Sometimes it’s easy to do. My 4 year old is home all day with me; we do fun stuff together a lot.
    Honestly, it’s hard to come up with fun stuff to do with a 16 year old boy, though I can do it if I try.
  • Make a big deal about each birthday – on the day and with a birthday party.

How do you maintain relationships with your husband and children?