Our Part-Time Military Life

On our second date, while walking around The White House, Rob got a call from the station chief in Alaska. I remember walking next to him and listening to his side of the conversation. He was being asked to deploy for a few months to back-fill a team that was being sent overseas. I remember feeling my heart pound a little harder and faster. 
You see, I didn’t really grow up around the military. By the time I was born, the veterans in my family had all finished their service and it was never really talked about growing up. It’s not that my family isn’t patriotic, it just wasn’t part of our life. My father was enlisted in the US Army as an Artillery Forward Observer during peace time (for those of you who are old enough to remember that). My maternal Grandfather was a Navigator in the US Army Air Corps on a B-17 at the end of WWII but never made it into combat as his training was completed near the end of the war. My paternal Grandfather was an Engineering Office in the Air Force. 
Although we were only on our second date, I knew that Rob was a Weather Forecaster for the Air National Guard. At the time, I couldn’t tell you what that title meant, but it was definitely an attractive quality. When he got off the phone, he looked at me a little nervous and elaborated on their conversation. I will never forgot what he asked me then, “would you be willing to wait for me?” My response, “when can I come and visit?”
Four and a half years later, we are happily married with a beautiful baby boy. While I still have a lot to learn about the military way of life, I am learning more everyday. Rob often throws around acronyms but has learned my “remember who you are talking to” face and will automatically provide more detail. I was so proud to watch Rob reenlist and commit to protecting this country for another six years. This past June, I also had the honor of participating in his promotion ceremony to Technical Sergeant. Parker even got to help “tack” on his rank. 
For awhile now, I have referred to myself as a part-time military wife. I mostly call myself that out of respect for those women and men whose spouses serve full-time. For those service men and women whose full-time job is to train and maintain their readiness to deploy at anytime. For those spouses who live the military life 24/7. 
Don’t get me wrong, being a part-time military family is not easy or any less honorable, just different. We have to find our place in both the military and civilian world. We have to find balance in both our military and civilian life.
As a SAHM, I have to switch back and forth from a 9-5 civilian life the hectic, unsettled life of a military wife. As many know, the one weekend a month and two weeks a year is truly a fallacy. I may live a normal life most days but I live with that thought in the back of my mind, “will he be here next month”. When we are preparing to hunker down during a natural disaster, I am thinking, “will he be here to help us through it?” 
Rob has to find balance in both his civilian job and his military career. Taking time to get ahead in one, means he has to sacrifice the other. He wants nothing more than to pursue a commission in the Air National Guard but that would mean leaving his civilian job for six months. While his civilian employer must hold a job for him, it would impact his career advancement. With only about 38 days in uniform each year, he has a very limited amount of time to train in his area of expertise. He often spends time outside of his military commitment doing this, which takes time away from his family. Not to mention the limited amount of time his has to build a strong camaraderie with the members of his unit. 
Rob was actually deployed for a few months last year in the middle of my pregnancy. I never talked about it here because I was still new to the blogging world and it made Rob nervous that people would know he was gone. Now that I am a little more experienced and Rob has learned more about the blogging life and what it means to be married to a blogger, he is more comfortable with it now. I am so excited to share some of my final thoughts as we get ready to send him off for another few months and what it is like to be a single SAH parent while he is gone. 
Part-time military life may not be easy, but I wouldn’t want it any other way. While it takes work to find balance and our place in each, we are so lucky to be a part of both. 


  1. Krista Bainbridge August 11, 2013 at 1:35 pm

    I am always amazed at military families and dealing with deployments – thank you to your family for protecting our country!

  2. Renae C. August 11, 2013 at 2:12 pm

    I love this post! I am a veteran myself, turned military spouse, turned part-time military spouse. My husband is actually doing drill this weekend. It definitely is a balancing act, and it can be very difficult to make it all work together. I would say that just by offering your love and support, you are doing the best thing you can for your hubby. Good for you, and good luck during these next few hard months.

  3. Edmund August 11, 2013 at 2:23 pm

    This is amazing to read about the life of military families. very interesting indeed!

  4. Emily August 11, 2013 at 2:38 pm

    I didn’t realize he was ANG! It means so much that you support him. It really is tough, and I am grateful for a husband who supports my National Guard career. Good luck through his deployment, it’s a tough time, but so rewarding in the end. <3

  5. sweetmagnoliagirls August 11, 2013 at 6:30 pm

    I feel I take advantage the fact the Adam is here with me 24/7. I can’t imagine him being away even for a weekend. I am so proud, and fully support all of our service men and women and the spouses and families they leave behind. Thank you both for the service you do for our country.

  6. Anonymous August 12, 2013 at 2:09 am

    Military wives are amazing.

  7. Double The Laundry August 12, 2013 at 3:07 am

    Your strength amazes me! Thank your husband for his service, and thank you for your support.

  8. Guinevere August 13, 2013 at 2:02 pm

    I’m trying to go into the reserves right now, so our family will also be living the part-time military life, and it was nice to get your perspective. Thanks for sharing!

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