Paying It Forward

After a rather rough night with P, I was feeling down as I dropped him off this morning at daycare. He is such a good boy and so flexible with schedule changes. Another dad was dropping of his screaming son. I walked in with P, washed his hands, sat him down for breakfast, kissed him good bye without a single peep.

I get down about myself when P has a bad night. I sometimes feel like a failure when he is upset and doesn’t want me to comfort him. Then I run a million questions through my head trying to figure out if I did something at some point. Did I transition him to the crib too early? Do I let him cry to much? Do I not let him cry enough? Does he really love me?

Then a random act of kindness happens and completely changes my mood.

I stopped at Chick-fil-A for breakfast. As I pulled up to the window the lady said my bill had been taken care of from the guy in front of me. I have no idea why he did it, but it put a huge smile on my face and really made my day.

I never realized how a small random act of kindness can have such a positive impact on someones day. It’s not like it saved me a huge amount of money. It was the fact that the person noticed something and made a conscious decision to do something nice.

I can’t wait to pay it forward!

Has someone ever done this for you? Have you done it for them?


  1. Jessica Odenbaugh August 27, 2013 at 5:19 pm

    When Lawrence and I first moved to Woodbridge we went to Wegmans to pick up some groceries and we were discussing how we were going to afford to buy Steven a gift for his first birthday… We then decided that we were going to have to wait until next pay period and that Steven wouldnt know the difference but we still felt horrible that we could get Steven a little something… As we were checking out with our card I had to transfer some money to my card to buy our groceries… when the nice couple behind us slid their card and paid for our groceries.. I thought they had made a mistake paying for our groceries and offered to go get the money out of the ATM right there… They had heard our discussion and wanted to do something nice so we could get Steven a gift for his birthday. Thanks to that nice couple we felt a little better and were able to buy Steven his Alphabet Train for his birthday! Since then we have gotten a little extra something for someone we knew was struggling a few times… Surprising them with lunch or something and it always feels awesome to pay it forward! I will forever be in debt to the nice couple that helped us at the grocery!

  2. Heather Julian August 27, 2013 at 5:20 pm

    It’s called the Chick Fil-a Pass along, it happens at almost all of them! You are supposed to continue it on and pay the persons behind you.
    I kind of always look forward to it when we go through the drive thru, sometimes I start it myself to get it going!

    Your boy loves you, he is just finding himself. Hugs.

  3. Natalie Parvis-Nichols August 27, 2013 at 8:16 pm

    That was really nice. I would do this if I could ever afford to eat out.

  4. MichelleS August 28, 2013 at 2:38 am

    I paid it (backwards) to someone once and paid the bill of the person behind me. However, I think it’s so rare that’s maybe why the lady looked at me strange.

  5. My Three Sons and a Baby! August 29, 2013 at 4:09 pm

    I pay it forward and wish others would too!

  6. DLS August 29, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    hey Mary! Danielle from BlogHer. I’ve been meaning to email you but was creeping your blog – and, lo and behold, I just paid for the lady behind me at Chick-fil-A in Fairfax this morning : ) It’s an awesome experience, always puts a smile on my face.

    I’ll reach out via email soon!
    Hope all’s well,

  7. sunnymum September 7, 2013 at 12:01 am

    Small gestures do mean a lot! I try to leave a quarter in the carts when I go to Aldis as their carts require a $.25 deposit. I’ll have to think of some other ways to pay it forward.

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