Never in a million years did I think I would experience this first hand. I was recently at the doctors office getting my wrist looked at. It has been hurting on and off for several months and I didn’t want to chance it with Rob being gone. The solution the doctor came up with was physical therapy.
When I went to the front desk, the receptionist said that they only did therapy certain days and times. I explained that my husband was deployed and I had a 14 month old son. There were only certain days and times that I could do it. If my availability didn’t fit within their times, I simply wouldn’t be able to do it. I was calm, honest and friendly about it.
She immediately got an attitude and said, “I don’t care about your excuses”. Wait, what?!? I simply stated the reality that I don’t have a ton of flexibility. She managed to “squeeze” me in 3 weeks from that date. I paid for my appointment and left with very few words.
The whole situation really put me in a funk the rest of the day. I had to remind myself that I am doing this on my own. Of course I have the help of my amazing friends and family but for the most part I am doing this on my own. Maintaining the house, paying the bills, keep all the records, taking care of P, trying to get healthier and exploring ways to help generate some income through blogging, Thirty-One, MaryKay and Etsy.
The reality is I may not get something done on time, I may need to cancel last minute or I may simply forgot something. It doesn’t mean I don’t care, I am uninterested or careless. It means I am tired, stressed or sometimes overwhelmed. I have a reason, not an excuse. Most likely, I am wishing at that moment that I didn’t have a reason because that would mean my partner in crime was here and not thousands of miles away.
I am amazed how quickly people forget what it is like to have kids or practice single parenting (even if just for a short time). The whole situation got me thinking, has this happened to any other military spouses or even mothers? How did you handle it?
I am so excited to co-host this weekly link party Caity from DIY Navy Momma. We have known one another for about 18 months, went through our first pregnancies together and both have currently deployed husbands.
I have found such a strong bond and support system within the military spouse community. This will be a fun and exciting way to keep in touch, offer support, and share excitement! I look forward to getting to know everyone and following along in your journey.