I have always been one to make lists. It gives me a clear picture of everything I need to get done and helps me feel accomplished at the end of the day. Sometimes I go as far as writing something down just to cross it off. Making lists help me stay on schedule and keep up with all of my responsibilities. I am glad that I was organized before this deployment because it has certainly helped with this transition to single parenting.
It took a few weeks but P and I are finally getting into our own groove. He goes to daycare a few hours each week, he visits the gym’s nursery while I work with a physical trainer two days a week and we have our weekly playdates with local stay-at-home moms. In between those times we play, take walks, go shopping and visit with friends and family.
I have been pretty successful with keeping up on the house work, laundry and up-keep of things. I make sure that the dishes are done, a load of laundry is in and all of P’s toys are cleaned up each evening. If it means I don’t get up to my craft room to start working until 9, than that is okay. Life is so much easier when you start your day ahead. I love walking up the stairs at night with a clean playroom and kitchen.
I have been following my cleaning schedule as close as possible which spreads out the household chores throughout the week. This made it easy when Rob was around and even easier now. As long as I follow it, I only have about 10-20 minutes of house work each day. I usually try to get it done when P plays after breakfast or after I drop him off at daycare. I do need to come up with a fall cleaning checklist similar to my spring cleaning one. Some things that don’t get attention every week are getting a little nasty.
Knowing when to ask for help has been very important and something that I am not very good at. Last night I was getting ready to put some things in the car when one of our neighbors kids approached me and asked if I would be interested in letting him mow the lawn for $10. I was putting off trying to do it myself for as long as possible but knew it needed to get done. I asked he would also do the back, for an extra $10, and he agreed. I think $20 was well worth saving me the aggravation of finding time this week and figuring out how to do it. I know I am perfectly capable, but it was nice to have it done and I was helping teach a young adult how to support themselves.
Now, the things I still need to work on more. I tend to work up in my craft room during P’s afternoon nap. Usually that is the time that Rob is putting together dinner. I have realized over the last few weeks that if I want P and I to eat homemade well balanced meals, I need to spend more time preparing a menu and putting it together each night. If it means I need to give up some craft time, it is well worth it. So this week I put together a menu and P and I went to the store this morning to get everything. I plan to start working on dinner about 5 each evening so we can eat around 6.
I also need to go downstairs, to our room, earlier at night. There are so many blog posts, crafts and home admin items I want to get done but I just can’t finish everything. I realized in the first week that I need to make sure I am getting enough sleep and taking care of myself. This includes winding down for the night and getting a few minutes between looking at the computer and laying my head on the pillow. This will allow me plenty of time to use my MaryKay masks and beauty products to help me look my best for Rob’s homecoming 🙂
I have to admit, it was really therapeutic to write this all down. It may not be a list but it was sure helpful to see everything I have going on day to day. I’ll try not to beat myself up too much for not getting more done as I go downstairs a little earlier tonight than I did last night. I can’t take the yawning anymore! 🙂
I am hoping I can share with you my first care package to Rob next week. I don’t want to share the goodies until he gets it but here is a sneak peak in the meantime!
I am so excited to co-host this weekly link party Caity from DIY Navy Momma. We have known one another for about 18 months, went through our first pregnancies together and both have currently deployed husbands.
I have found such a strong bond and support system within the military spouse community. This will be a fun and exciting way to keep in touch, offer support, and share excitement! I look forward to getting to know everyone and following along in your journey.