I just love the beginning of a new year and the fresh start it brings. I always feel like I can accomplish anything and pretty much indestructible. My ambitious goals get the better of me mid summer and the rest of the year is just a game of keeping my head above water. I would sometimes jot down a few things I wanted to accomplish but never really developed goals and resolutions. Last year I decided to really start writing out goals to help manage and accomplish them a little better.
It would be cheating if I jumped right into our 2014 goals without reflecting on the ones we had last year. Since it was my first year actually writing out goals I will chalk my success to being slightly naive. That and Rob’s unplanned deployment. You can read the full post here.
This section was a complete flop. While I did make some goals that were manageable and measurable, I just didn’t follow through. While I can honestly say part of that was Rob’s deployment, I certainly can’t blame my entire lack of progress on that. At the same time, other goals were just unrealistic. My biggest health related accomplishment was participating in the Color Run.
Our family was incomplete for part of the year but we did make the best of what we had. Date nights were not weekly as hoped but the ones we had were a lot of fun. We had to reschedule Disney for January 2014 because of Robs deployment. I didn’t count the exact number of items donated but we certainly reached 2,013.
This category was very successful. We painted his room, threw him an awesome birthday party, found a nighttime routine and took him to swim classes. The only thing I didn’t get to was making a growth chart for him. I think that will start on his 2nd birthday.
Manager of The Meyer Home
I am pleased with the two things I accomplished here. I made a pretty comprehensive yet realistic cleaning checklist. I also changed out all of our cleaning agents with safe and more natural ones (posts here).
With everything else going on I didn’t manage to get any of the other items below done. You’ll see them again with a list revamping in our 2014 goals below. I am most excited about getting together a house binder, backing up all of my documents and getting ride of our 4 drawer filing cabinet.
Nope, didn’t stick to a monthly budget or keep track to see if we saved money coupons. You’ll see these again in our 2014 goals with a lot of revamping.
Updates Around The House
While Rob was deployed I facilitated every room in the house getting painted. Even though I didn’t do it myself, it was a lot of work. I also changed out all of the lights, mirrors, door knobs, outlets, switches and plates around the house from gold to silver.
I did finish our laundry room (here), Parker’s room (here) and several things around the kitchen (here, here, here, here, and here).
So embarrassed about this section. I didn’t manage to get anything done :/ I’ll be reevaluating theses for next year and picking the most important ones.
Personal Development/Cherry Blossom Love
Nope, didn’t read any books or looked at a newspaper. I did attend a blog conference and hosted several giveaways throughout the year though.
Overall, I do have to pat myself on the back. I managed to get a lot accomplished even as a single mom for a few months. If nothing else, I really learned alot about myself as a SAHM and living a life with a child.
Now that I have taken some time to reflect on my 2013 goals, I am in a much better place to figure out what I want to achieve this year. Looking back I realized that there were too many goals to possibly achieve especially with a deployment in there. Knowing that we have another one coming up this year, I want to focus on the quality of my goals this year not quantity. I also wanted to take the time to make sure that I keep them as SMART as possible. I first learned about SMART goals when I was in graduate school. Who would have thought I would find a purpose for them outside of the work place?!?
Even though we are now parents, it doesn’t mean that we can’t have adult time. This year I want to spend time each week on a date with Rob. For the most part that will be a Redbox movie on the couch with a yummy homemade treat. I would love on a monthly basis to get out and go to dinner and a movie. My local SAHM group created a baby-share point based system that will allow us to do this without needing to pay a sitter. A responsible adult sitter for free? Winner over here!
I am embarrassed to say but this is a problem in our house. Parker is now starting to imitate us so this bad habit needs to change. I will be creating a “potty mouth jar” that Rob and I will be using to help stop our bad habits before Parker can learn them.
Weekends = Family Time
I need to start thinking of my blog, Etsy Shop, Thirty-One and MaryKay as my business(es). Most people don’t work 7 days a week and if they do, it’s not a regular thing. Aside from drill weekends and naptime I want to focus on spending time with Rob and Parker instead of glued to a computer screen. It took this last deployment to realize how precious that time is.
Parker has pretty much transitioned himself off the pacifier except for sleeping and long car rides.
Prepare for Potty Training
I don’t believe pushing a child into potty training does any good so I am not in any rush for this. I do want to start research on different products, books and methods so that I have an idea of what we want when the time comes and Parker starts showing an interest.
2nd Birthday Bash
Except this year I am going to cater the food and cake so I can spend more time enjoying the party!
Luckily, this blog has kept me up to date with Parker’s monthly updates, photos, and milestones. Now I just need to sit down and actually put together his 1 year book and get up to date with his 2nd year. I want to have his 1st and 2nd year books done by July 1, 2014.
Now that the house is painted I can begin to finish decorating each room in the house. To make it easy and affordable to achieve, I want to focus on a different room each month. I have been slowly collecting
Rob really wants to plant an actual garden this year with cucumbers, peppers, strawberries, raspberries and spices. He wants to take the lead on this and I am not standing in his way!
Sell/Donate 2,014 Items
Sadly, this is possible even after donating so much last year. This year I hope to focus on donating anything in my closet that doesn’t fit or doesn’t make sense with my SAHM lifestyle. I also need to weed through my craft room and get ride of items that I haven’t used since school.
Overall, we stay in our budget each month but can definitely make smarter choices to save more. This is mostly true for our food budget and eating out. In the past I have set aside $50 a week for groceries. Let’s face it, $50 a week for a family of three just isn’t possible. Perhaps if I couponed my brains out but I just don’t have time for that. I want to set a realistic goal factoring in less meals out. By shopping more store brands and searching for specific coupons we need each week we can save money with a lot less work.
Decrease Utility Bills
I want to get in the habit of shutting off the water and lights when I don’t need them. I am so bad at this right now and I know that every little bit does add up.
I really need a morning once a week to balance the budget, pay bills, and get all of our home administrative tasks done. If I set aside a specific day once a week for this I will be able to stay on top of filing things, scanning receipts into our NeatReceipt scanner, putting together a menu/grocery list, and any other admin related items.
Read the Hunger Games Series
It takes a lot of effort to sit down and read a book. There is always so many other things I can be doing. Especially since it takes me so long to read. My sister and I went to see Catching Fire and she really encouraged me to read the book. I decided to start from the beginning to read the whole series.
I am not going to set a specific number of pounds I want to lose this year. Instead I want to focus on some actual things that will help me learn better habits which will result in weight loss.
– Complete the Advocare 24-day challenge (Started 1/3)
– Complete the T25 challenge (Started 1/2)
– Follow WW online after the 24-day challenge is over
– Stop putting everything before taking care of myself
Get in Front of the Camera
Because I am so unhappy with my appearance, I always find myself behind the camera recording Parker’s life, milestones and accomplishments. I am so disappointed in the lack of pictures I have with my baby boy. He is my whole life and I know I am his even though he can’t articulate that aside from his broke “I love you”, which is to die for I might add.
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Looking over these I am excited for the new year and ready to take on some new challenges. As I am writing this Rob and I are on day 2 of the Advocare Cleanse and day 3 of T25. I am hungry, would kill for some french fries and am sore head to toe. At the same time, I am really proud of myself already and it’s only January 4th!
So what do you think? Too ambitious? What are some resolutions or goals you have for the 2014 year?