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Military Monday’s {Link Party} ~ It Can Wait

“It can wait…”

Even though I say these words every day, I don’t think they have ever been directed at the right things. It took Rob being gone only a week for me to make this realization. I look back on all the times I could have spent relaxing with him, enjoying our time together. Instead, I always thought that could wait and my to-do list needed the attention. I have a lot on my plate even though I am SAHM.

I knew this deployment would be different and harder than the last. I didn’t realize how much I relied on Rob in the evenings and on the weekend to help with P. It didn’t help that I came down with an awful cold and felt like I had the wind knocked out of me the last few days. Luckily, P shows no signs of it! I swear if this kid has a better immune system than me we should be tested for super powers 🙂

This past week has been a good look into what the next few months will be like. Tough, but we got through it and even got to see his smiling face the other day. P was absolutely adorable when he saw Rob and knew who he was right away. Here is what I learned so far this week…

– Being the soul caregiver for a baby is HARD WORK. Major props to all the single parents out there!

– If you are going to IKEA, park near a cart return. I parked in my usual, away from the entrance, and had to balance a few boxes and baskets on the stroller and my hip. I must have been a riot to watch.

– You will quickly learn every tool on the work bench

– When you start to feel the anxiety come on, take a breathe, stop what ever you are doing, and play with your baby. They are the only thing that can’t wait.

– Even having a security system, I still need to shut every baby gate in the house, sleep with the light on and my glasses on. I am sure I will get more used to it as time goes on but it’s what I need to do right now.

– I am stronger and more capable than I think. I won’t be perfect and I won’t get everything I want to done. If Rob comes back to a newly painted house decorated for the holiday’s with a skinny wife and son who is walking, I accomplished by job 🙂

I am so excited to introduce a new weekly link up here at Cherry Blossom Love and couldn’t image a better co-host, Caity from DIY Navy Momma. We have known one another for about 18 months, went through our first pregnancies together and both have currently deployed husbands.

I have found such a strong bond and support system within the military spouse community. This will be a fun and exciting way to keep in touch, offer support, and share excitement! I look forward to getting to know everyone and following along in your journey.

Share a new or old post, anything related to the military or military life you have written. Make sure to link the actual post (not just your blog) so it is easier for readers to find! 
Share as many posts as you want each week.
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We welcome giveaways especially if they help fellow military spouses or their families. 
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Each week we will choose our favorites and showcase them in the next link party.


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{Guest Post} My #1 New Year’s Resolution: Work on Relationships with my Husband and Children

As part of A Grande Life’s New Year Blog Swap, I am joining you today to talk about my New Year’s Resolution while Mary of Cherry Blossom Love is hanging out over at my blog, A Life in Balance. Fun, fun!
First a little about myself before I talk about one of my New Year’s Resolutions. I am a mom of 5 kids, ages 16 to 4. I work from home on my writing and blogs, A Life in Balance and Frugal Local Kitchen, while volunteering at my children’s school, coleading a Daisy/Brownie troop, and setting myself the goal of running 13 races in 2013. Yes, my plate is the proverbial full.

I didn’t use to be this type of person. If you met me a few years ago, you would think of me as a shy, quiet type. Not that I’m swinging on the chandeliers now. I simply have gotten more comfortable with meeting people and creating relationships in my life, plus being myself. I’m incredibly blessed to have lots of wonderful friends in my life now thanks to all the different activities I’m part of.

However, this past fall, I felt like I wasn’t spending as much time focusing on the most important people in my life. My husband and I stopped going out on dates because, well, because I found him a little difficult
to talk to about my life. I stopped going to the library as often as I used to with my teenage son; that was our time to talk without 4 little ones around. We skipped having family birthday parties for our 3 children
with fall and winter birthdays, mostly because of an extended family issue, and also because it meant another project.

Looking in, you’d probably tell me that I spend a lot of time with my kids and my husband. I do. I just don’t make them the priority they were before this fall.

One of my New Year’s resolutions is to put my family back at the top of my priorities. Friends come and go; husbands are supposed to be around for richer, poorer, in sickness, and in health. He’s my life partner. My kids are only this age once, have these birthdays this one time. Now is the time for my husband and my kids.

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My Plan

  • Put on the calendar a regular monthly date with my husband. I kicked off January with a surprise date.
  • Text, email, and call my husband several times a day even if it’s simply to let him know that I’m thinking of him.
  • Make a point of hugging and kissing my husband goodbye every morning when he goes off to work.
  • Look at my calendar to make sure I’m spending one on one time with each kid on a regular basis. Sometimes it’s easy to do. My 4 year old is home all day with me; we do fun stuff together a lot.
    Honestly, it’s hard to come up with fun stuff to do with a 16 year old boy, though I can do it if I try.
  • Make a big deal about each birthday – on the day and with a birthday party.

How do you maintain relationships with your husband and children?