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Military Homework {Military Monday’s}

Even though Rob and I have been together for over four years, I still have so much to learn about the military. It amazes me how much he knows just and how natural it all seems to him. I am sure that wasn’t the case in basic training but now, it has become who he is and embedded into his personality, mannerisms, and vocabulary.

Rob is always using military abbreviations and it’s really hard to follow him sometimes. This certainly isn’t a complete list but it has been the ones I find come up the most and applicable to a military wife. 
BAH & BAS – Basic Allowance for Housing. Basic Allowance for Subsistence.
CDC – Child Development Center.
Chit – A request or voucher.
CO – Commanding Officer. 
COLA – Cost of Living Allowance.
Commissary – Where military members and families can go to buy food.
CONUS – Continental United States.
DEERS – Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System. 
DOD – Department of Defense.
EM – Enlisted Member.
FRG – Family Readiness Group.
FSSA – Family Subsistence Supplemental Allowance. 
OCONUS – Outside the Continental United States.
MP – Military Police.
PCS – Permanent Change of Station. 
POA – Power Of Attorney. 
SSN – Social Security Number.
TDY or TAD – Temporary duty. 
TRICARE – Military health care program for eligible members and their dependents.
VA – Department of Veterans Affairs.

I still laugh when I hear Rob on the phone giving the letter breakdown of a word. Maybe because he is always serious when he does it and I just make up something when I do it.

When I commuted into DC for work, I was always surrounded by uniforms. I always felt bad because I never really knew their rank. I can’t even count the number of times I would get home and describe what was on their uniform when I would tell Rob stories from my day. I am a visual person and looking at these has helped me start to identify ranks.

What gal doesn’t love a man in uniform? I absolutely love seeing Rob in his uniform. He takes so much pride in his uniform and always makes sure it is perfect. I have found it to be really difficult to identify one uniform from the other but looking at them all together makes it easier.

I am so excited to co-host this weekly link party Caity from DIY Navy Momma. We have known one another for about 18 months, went through our first pregnancies together and both have currently deployed husbands.

I have found such a strong bond and support system within the military spouse community. This will be a fun and exciting way to keep in touch, offer support, and share excitement! I look forward to getting to know everyone and following along in your journey.

Share a new or old post, anything related to the military or military life you have written. Make sure to link the actual post (not just your blog) so it is easier for readers to find! 
Share as many posts as you want each week.
Visit some of the other links and leave some love.
We welcome giveaways especially if they help fellow military spouses or their families. 
Please include the below button in any posts you link up to help spread the word about our Military Monday Link Party.
Each week we will choose our favorites and showcase them in the next link party.




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Deployment Bucket List {Military Monday’s}

My moms group has been taking turns hosting dinner. It’s a great way to give each other a break making dinner and we always love the social time and interaction with the kids. Last week I was at my friend Suzanna’s house and noticed this on her bulletin board.

Her husband recently left for deployment and she came up with this list of things she wanted to do while he was gone. I thought this was such a good idea. Sometimes a deployment can seem very empty. It’s not only the physical separation between your partner but also their absence in day to day life. You have to work twice as hard to make plans knowing that they won’t be there for it.

Even though we are well into our deployment, I thought it would be nice to come up with a few things I would like to do for the remaining time. We have so much going on with some home improvements and then getting ready for the holidays but I can always squeeze a few more things in. 

Did you ever create a bucket list? What were some of the items on it?

I am so excited to co-host this weekly link party Caity from DIY Navy Momma. We have known one another for about 18 months, went through our first pregnancies together and both have currently deployed husbands.

I have found such a strong bond and support system within the military spouse community. This will be a fun and exciting way to keep in touch, offer support, and share excitement! I look forward to getting to know everyone and following along in your journey.

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Deployment Box #1: Missing Daddy {Military Monday’s}

There is no doubt about it, deployments suck. They are rough on everyone and can really test your emotional strength. I will say though, technology now makes it more manageable and helps combat that feeling of loneliness. Access to mail has definitely made things easier. I get to have fun putting together themed boxes and Rob gets a little bit of home in each one.

I had put together a box for Rob and then made the mistake of looking on Pinterst. My box was plain and sad in comparison so I knew I had to step up my game! Luckily, Target had some cute stuff in their $1 section for 50% off which helped me come up with the theme for box #1, missing Daddy.

 I took a coloring page and ripped it in half. One was set to Rob and the other stayed at home for P to color. I wrote a little note on the packing saying, “even though we are far away, we can still color together.”

Rob said he didn’t need many snacks but I put together a few of his favorites and found this lunch bag to put everything in that I just couldn’t pass up. 
P is way to young for this next item to really be from him but I saw it and thought it would get a good laugh out of Rob.  It was a $.50 medical kit which I put into a plastic Ziplock with a note saying, ” Mommy told me you are working in a dangerous place and I won’t be there to kiss your boo boos. So here is a bag to help you get better. I will kiss it when you get home.” I know, really lame but I thought it was cute. 

I also included this foam clock that says, “Every minute that goes by is one more minute closer to coming home to us. Even if they seem to go by slow.”

I am doing a lot of work around the house while Rob is gone and I still want him to feel part of the process. I got paint samples of all the colors I picked out and wrote where each color was going to be used. I have changed a few since I mailed this but overall he seemed happy that he could see them ahead of time. 

I had to put a few sappy things inside. I decided to spray my perfume and P’s baby wash onto cards. I put them each in an envelope that said, “If you are missing me, smell this.” I put them in another Zip-Lock so that the scent was still strong when he got them. 

He had also requested a new pillow case. I sent him one of ours but also bought a white one to write a little message on it. 

Pictures are a must in every box. I had a hard time choosing just a few! Rob said he took them and using the tape I included in the box, hung a few pictures up by his bed. 

I used some of the pictures and scrapbook paper to decorate each flap of his box so that he was surprised when he opened it. 
A few Scrabble pieces for a final touch! 
What I included in this box:
– Requested items that included shower shoes, tissues and a beard trimmer.
– A few snacks.
– Some things to make him smile.
– A few cheesy mushy items to let him know how much we love him. 
– Lots of pictures.
– Some practical items like Zip-Lock bags and tape. 
I have already started putting together box #2 and this theme is even better. Think, purple 🙂
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Staying On Schedule {Military Monday’s}

I have always been one to make lists. It gives me a clear picture of everything I need to get done and helps me feel accomplished at the end of the day. Sometimes I go as far as writing something down just to cross it off. Making lists help me stay on schedule and keep up with all of my responsibilities. I am glad that I was organized before this deployment because it has certainly helped with this transition to single parenting.

It took a few weeks but P and I are finally getting into our own groove. He goes to daycare a few hours each week, he visits the gym’s nursery while I work with a physical trainer two days a week and we have our weekly playdates with local stay-at-home moms. In between those times we play, take walks, go shopping and visit with friends and family.

I have been pretty successful with keeping up on the house work, laundry and up-keep of things. I make sure that the dishes are done, a load of laundry is in and all of P’s toys are cleaned up each evening. If it means I don’t get up to my craft room to start working until 9, than that is okay. Life is so much easier when you start your day ahead. I love walking up the stairs at night with a clean playroom and kitchen.

I have been following my cleaning schedule as close as possible which spreads out the household chores throughout the week. This made it easy when Rob was around and even easier now. As long as I follow it, I only have about 10-20 minutes of house work each day. I usually try to get it done when P plays after breakfast or after I drop him off at daycare. I do need to come up with a fall cleaning checklist similar to my spring cleaning one. Some things that don’t get attention every week are getting a little nasty.

Knowing when to ask for help has been very important and something that I am not very good at. Last night I was getting ready to put some things in the car when one of our neighbors kids approached me and asked if I would be interested in letting him mow the lawn for $10. I was putting off trying to do it myself for as long as possible but knew it needed to get done. I asked he would also do the back, for an extra $10, and he agreed. I think $20 was well worth saving me the aggravation of finding time this week and figuring out how to do it. I know I am perfectly capable, but it was nice to have it done and I was helping teach a young adult how to support themselves.

Now, the things I still need to work on more. I tend to work up in my craft room during P’s afternoon nap. Usually that is the time that Rob is putting together dinner. I have realized over the last few weeks that if I want P and I to eat homemade well balanced meals, I need to spend more time preparing a menu and putting it together each night. If it means I need to give up some craft time, it is well worth it. So this week I put together a menu and P and I went to the store this morning to get everything. I plan to start working on dinner about 5 each evening so we can eat around 6.

I also need to go downstairs, to our room, earlier at night. There are so many blog posts, crafts and home admin items I want to get done but I just can’t finish everything. I realized in the first week that I need to make sure I am getting enough sleep and taking care of myself. This includes winding down for the night and getting a few minutes between looking at the computer and laying my head on the pillow. This will allow me plenty of time to use my MaryKay masks and beauty products to help me look my best for Rob’s homecoming 🙂

I have to admit, it was really therapeutic to write this all down. It may not be a list but it was sure helpful to see everything I have going on day to day. I’ll try not to beat myself up too much for not getting more done as I go downstairs a little earlier tonight than I did last night. I can’t take the yawning anymore! 🙂

I am hoping I can share with you my first care package to Rob next week. I don’t want to share the goodies until he gets it but here is a sneak peak in the meantime!

I am so excited to co-host this weekly link party Caity from DIY Navy Momma. We have known one another for about 18 months, went through our first pregnancies together and both have currently deployed husbands.

I have found such a strong bond and support system within the military spouse community. This will be a fun and exciting way to keep in touch, offer support, and share excitement! I look forward to getting to know everyone and following along in your journey.

Share a new or old post, anything related to the military or military life you have written. Make sure to link the actual post (not just your blog) so it is easier for readers to find! 
Share as many posts as you want each week.
Visit some of the other links and leave some love.
We welcome giveaways especially if they help fellow military spouses or their families. 
Please include the below button in any posts you link up to help spread the word about our Military Monday Link Party.
Each week we will choose our favorites and showcase them in the next link party.




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It’s Not An Excuse, It’s Reality {Military Monday’s}

Never in a million years did I think I would experience this first hand. I was recently at the doctors office getting my wrist looked at. It has been hurting on and off for several months and I didn’t want to chance it with Rob being gone. The solution the doctor came up with was physical therapy.

When I went to the front desk, the receptionist said that they only did therapy certain days and times. I explained that my husband was deployed and I had a 14 month old son. There were only certain days and times that I could do it. If my availability didn’t fit within their times, I simply wouldn’t be able to do it. I was calm, honest and friendly about it.

She immediately got an attitude and said, “I don’t care about your excuses”. Wait, what?!? I simply stated the reality that I don’t have a ton of flexibility. She managed to “squeeze” me in 3 weeks from that date. I paid for my appointment and left with very few words.

The whole situation really put me in a funk the rest of the day. I had to remind myself that I am doing this on my own. Of course I have the help of my amazing friends and family but for the most part I am doing this on my own. Maintaining the house, paying the bills, keep all the records, taking care of P, trying to get healthier and exploring ways to help generate some income through blogging, Thirty-One, MaryKay and Etsy.

The reality is I may not get something done on time, I may need to cancel last minute or I may simply forgot something. It doesn’t mean I don’t care, I am uninterested or careless. It means I am tired, stressed or sometimes overwhelmed. I have a reason, not an excuse. Most likely, I am wishing at that moment that I didn’t have a reason because that would mean my partner in crime was here and not thousands of miles away.

I am amazed how quickly people forget what it is like to have kids or practice single parenting (even if just for a short time). The whole situation got me thinking, has this happened to any other military spouses or even mothers? How did you handle it?

I am so excited to co-host this weekly link party Caity from DIY Navy Momma. We have known one another for about 18 months, went through our first pregnancies together and both have currently deployed husbands.

I have found such a strong bond and support system within the military spouse community. This will be a fun and exciting way to keep in touch, offer support, and share excitement! I look forward to getting to know everyone and following along in your journey.

Share a new or old post, anything related to the military or military life you have written. Make sure to link the actual post (not just your blog) so it is easier for readers to find! 
Share as many posts as you want each week.
Visit some of the other links and leave some love.
We welcome giveaways especially if they help fellow military spouses or their families. 
Please include the below button in any posts you link up to help spread the word about our Military Monday Link Party.
Each week we will choose our favorites and showcase them in the next link party.




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Military Monday’s {Link Party} ~ It Can Wait

“It can wait…”

Even though I say these words every day, I don’t think they have ever been directed at the right things. It took Rob being gone only a week for me to make this realization. I look back on all the times I could have spent relaxing with him, enjoying our time together. Instead, I always thought that could wait and my to-do list needed the attention. I have a lot on my plate even though I am SAHM.

I knew this deployment would be different and harder than the last. I didn’t realize how much I relied on Rob in the evenings and on the weekend to help with P. It didn’t help that I came down with an awful cold and felt like I had the wind knocked out of me the last few days. Luckily, P shows no signs of it! I swear if this kid has a better immune system than me we should be tested for super powers 🙂

This past week has been a good look into what the next few months will be like. Tough, but we got through it and even got to see his smiling face the other day. P was absolutely adorable when he saw Rob and knew who he was right away. Here is what I learned so far this week…

– Being the soul caregiver for a baby is HARD WORK. Major props to all the single parents out there!

– If you are going to IKEA, park near a cart return. I parked in my usual, away from the entrance, and had to balance a few boxes and baskets on the stroller and my hip. I must have been a riot to watch.

– You will quickly learn every tool on the work bench

– When you start to feel the anxiety come on, take a breathe, stop what ever you are doing, and play with your baby. They are the only thing that can’t wait.

– Even having a security system, I still need to shut every baby gate in the house, sleep with the light on and my glasses on. I am sure I will get more used to it as time goes on but it’s what I need to do right now.

– I am stronger and more capable than I think. I won’t be perfect and I won’t get everything I want to done. If Rob comes back to a newly painted house decorated for the holiday’s with a skinny wife and son who is walking, I accomplished by job 🙂

I am so excited to introduce a new weekly link up here at Cherry Blossom Love and couldn’t image a better co-host, Caity from DIY Navy Momma. We have known one another for about 18 months, went through our first pregnancies together and both have currently deployed husbands.

I have found such a strong bond and support system within the military spouse community. This will be a fun and exciting way to keep in touch, offer support, and share excitement! I look forward to getting to know everyone and following along in your journey.

Share a new or old post, anything related to the military or military life you have written. Make sure to link the actual post (not just your blog) so it is easier for readers to find! 
Share as many posts as you want each week.
Visit some of the other links and leave some love.
We welcome giveaways especially if they help fellow military spouses or their families. 
Please include the below button in any posts you link up to help spread the word about our Military Monday Link Party.
Each week we will choose our favorites and showcase them in the next link party.