The last 5 weeks have been rough to say the least… I try to keep this a fun and happy place but ya know, sometimes life just doesn’t go as planned. I ran myself pretty ragged before Christmas focusing on my business. I am so […]
Let’s face it… Motherhood isn’t glamorous. We aren’t perfect, unless you are a sanctimommy, then you can do no wrong. And during the course of any given day our feelings for our kids can go from wanting to rip our hair out to not being able to give enough kisses. The good days are great and the bad days end in wine, lots of wine. We have been house bond for quite awhile settling into our new life in Canada and I began to notice a few common thoughts I have daily.
10 – Holy hell kids are hard, like freakin hard.
9 – I will pay someone $25 to change whatever is in that diaper.
8 – Okay, it’s time to stop FB stalking all my friends who don’t have kids.
7 – I just want to sleep for 5 consecutive hours, just once.
6 – Hoooowwwwww can you possibly still be hungry for more food?!?
5 – How can I possibly look you straight in the eye and scold you for something I think is hilarious?!?
4 – Where is the duct tape, I won’t use it, I just want to have it in sight.
3 – How the heck do I hide my indulgences in the car now that P is forward facing….?
2 – Wait I’m confused… Are you Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde? I can’t seem to keep up.
1 – Wait till I tell your first relationship what you just did!
Please tell me I am not alone in some of these. Have any to add?
I started this series over a year ago in hopes of opening up a little more about my experiences as a mother. Although I like to make this blog a happy place, motherhood often throws us curve balls. We are emotionally and physically challenged daily and sometimes at the end of the day we go to sleep with regrets. Did I yell too much? Did they not get enough attention? Why did I let them eat chicken nuggets? The truth is, we aren’t perfect and that’s okay! Life isn’t suppose to be Pinterest perfect. We can focus on those moments, but sometimes we need to reflect on the outtakes to get the full picture of motherhood. This series is about being real. Sometimes controversial. But never sugar coated.
This is getting a little easier. Caity is consistently getting tired around 9am and will fall asleep in her R&P for 1-1.5 hours. I try to feed P breakfast, clean up the kitchen, throw a load of laundry in and if I have time answer a few emails. She sits in her highchair while I make lunch for Parker and I. She still won’t let me put her down for her afternoon nap. Luckily, Rob gets home from class and usually takes over so I can get a little work done. He has been able to help out a little more with holding her in the evenings as well which has been really nice. You can take a peak a little more into what are day looks like in my A Day In The Life Of Two post.
The biggest thing when you have two young ones at home is to really reevaluate your expectations. Anytime I start feeling overwhelmed I take a look at my to-do list and 99% of the time it’s because I am trying to achieve too much. After taking care of the kiddos, tending to household chores I realistically only have time to get 1 thing done each day. Since I blog, have an Etsy shop, and sell Thirty-One, you can start to see my dilemma here. I just keep adding to my list and tackle one thing at a time.
Brother & Sister Love
I am in awe at how well Parker has adapted to Caity. Lately I have caught him picking up a toy she has dropped or telling her it’s okay when she is crying. She is getting more alert and aware of her surroundings and can tell she is always watching him and looking for him when he isn’t around. She isn’t scared of his loud noises and even giggles when he does them close to her. I want her to stay little for awhile longer but have to admit I am a little anxious to see how they interact with one another once she is mobile.
Now that she is awake for a good part of the day I have been trying to find ways to play with both of them. Usually I put a blanket on the floor so Caity and I can sit down and let Parker come over when he wants. My good friend Jen gave her some musical toys which has been a huge hit for both Caity and Parker. He ends up wanting to play with us, and her toys, the entire time.
While we still have to be very careful Parker asks to hold or cuddle with Caity often. The La-Z-Boy in the nursery is a perfect place to snap a few shots. As soon as I put Caity next to him Parker is trying to put his arm around her and give her kisses. My heart melts every time.
Parker VS Caity
I have had my ups and downs with this the past month. It’s hard to prioritize or even plan to do something because it depends on the kids and how much classwork Rob has to do. When Caity has a good day and Parker is at daycare I can get quite a bit of blogging done. When Parker is home, I focus on housework and playing with him while she sleeps. When she is awake or eating we tend to watch a movie together on the couch.
However, days their schedule don’t line up I want to rip my hair out. For instance last Thursday when I was trying to get the kitchen cleaned, laundry done, and presents wrapped. We were leaving Friday for two weeks so these were all things I had to get done. Parker was on repeat mode and Caity was hysterical if she wasn’t being held. I texted Rob saying, “This. Day. Sucks”. I still ended up getting everything done, but it certainly was tricky and I didn’t enjoy any of it.
While we are in NJ and have some help with the kids I am hoping Rob and I can sit down and plan out a tangible cleaning schedule and game plan for shopping one day each week. I love schedules and I am confident that if we map out a good one things won’t pile up. We also have a habit of running errands several times a week. If we took one trip to Target each week that would cut out a lot of wasted time during the week that could be spent on family time. Not to mention saving some money!
Brother & Sister Love
Parker is starting to show some signs of jealousy. He doesn’t act out but seems to want similar attention so he usually asks to sit on our laps and when he cuddles he wants to be laying right on us. I try whenever possible to put Caity down or hand her off to Rob so that I can get equal cuddles in with my baby boy.
Caity VS Parker
I am finding myself a lot more tired on days when I am alone with both kids. It’s a great day when their schedule mesh well together, it’s rough on the days when they don’t. My days are spent running around trying to give both the attention they want/deserve. The evenings are much different this time around since Caity has developed colic. From about 7pm – midnight all she wants is to be held/nursed. It gets emotionally and physically draining for me at times and frustrating for Rob since he can’t really help.
On a good day, Caity takes her morning nap while P and I get dressed and have breakfast. I try and throw in a load of laundry or clean up the kitchen before she wakes to eat. Parker usually plays in the morning and I put on a movie to occupy him while I nurse Caity and make lunch. During nap time I keep Caity upstairs with me while I attempt to get a craft project or blog post done. After nap I feed Caity while Parker plays until Rob gets home. Depending on the day he will either take care of them while I try to get more work done or we run errands. I usually feed Caity while Rob makes dinner and then he gets in some cuddles and playtime with Parker while I clean up and do the dishes. After that we head upstairs for bath time. Caity in her bath tub on the sink and Parker either in the bath tube or in the shower. Rob reads to Parker and puts him to bed while I nurse Caity again. Sometimes I don’t leave the nursery until it’s time to go to bed. Other nights I attempt to get some more work done upstairs. Rob usually heads upstairs to do homework right after putting Parker to bed. Good days and bad days can change this schedule around but for the most part, this is what the average day looks like. I will say that on a bad day nothing gets done, we watch a lot of movies, and I can usually be found in the kitchen attempting to make lunch with one hand while nursing Caity.
My biggest tip is to figure out what you can do while they are awake and what needs to be done while they are sleeping. I try to plan out at the beginning of the week what I would like to accomplish and what days I can work on those goals. The most important part of that is realizing it’s just a goal. Sometimes I get everything done including all the laundry while other weeks almost nothing gets done. Either way, I won’t remember them in 20 years just the memory and photo of all the cuddles I can manage to get in.
Brother & Sister Love
Parker is adapting really well with Caity around. He constantly wants to help and thinks Caity should always have her blanket, Monroe, and paci.
Parker vs Caity
Having a toddler and newborn at home has been interesting. There certainly isn’t as much time to snuggle during the day and recuperate from all night feeding sessions. I have to find a balance between giving Caity the snuggles she needs as a newborn and giving Parker the attention he deserves. It’s still a work in progress but I am doing pretty well I think. Caity usually nurses between 5-7AM so she takes a morning nap while I get Parker and I ready for the day and eat breakfast. The morning is spent cleaning up, laundry and other chores. Lunch has been tricky because they both seem to get hungry at the same time. Nap time I try to get a little blogging or office work done while Caity naps in the Mamaroo. Afterwards we usually head downstairs to watch a movie and have quiet play until Rob gets home. Then it’s dinner followed by bed time routine. Rob gives Parker a bath or shark shower while I give Caity a bath at the sink. Having the changing station in the bathroom has worked out great, especially with the colder weather coming. Then it’s story time and Parker goes to bed. Caity usually nurses again around that time and two more times before I go to bed.
Brother & Sister Love
Parker is doing really well with Caity. He is so interested in what she is doing and often concerned when she cries. If he sees she doesn’t have a blanket or hat he will look around for one and bring it to her saying, “Caity need hat/blanket.” We have caught him a few times bawling up his own A&A blanket and rocking it back and forth. He loves to help change her diaper and thinks that when I nurse her she is getting a bottle. I swear he is gonna tell someone women when he is older she has nice bottles (instead of boobs).
Iv’e noticed that they both look a lot alike and have several of the same mannerisms. She also gets hangry without much warning which is very similar to her brother and father.
Caity VS Parker